I get SO very tired of seeing perfectly dressed woman on Instagram supposedly promoting Godliness. Their hair is perfectly pinned, they have so much makeup on you would never even know they have the same wrinkles or skin issues as any other woman and they make sure they never take a bad picture. Their perfection is unobtainable outside of the 30 second reel, they have not authenticity about them. This does not scream Proverbs 31 Woman to me or any other woman trying her best to follow Jesus. Why?
Because it reeks of vanity. .
"So is looking good for social media wrong?"
Not entirely, I believe you should put your best foot forward and appreciate the body gave you as a woman. yes, be pretty! Be feminine! Enjoy the beauty God gave you! BUT if your goal is to always look good for the sake of followers and likes then you are not following God's Plan for your life. If your goal is to be a Proverbs 31 Woman then true authenticity is required.
The women whose social media is a love letter to themselves will be extremely angry when they read this because it will reveal they need to take their mask off. They will take a stand to defend why they believe they are authentic, they'll create Reels upon Reels, Posts upon Posts, Blogs upon Blogs, trying to justify why they are authentic, even in all their clever and constant cover ups. Let them shout, let them argue, then turn your heart to the only source that tells us how to become Proverbs 31 Women: God's Word. Because if you have to argue that you are authentic then you are not ma'am.
"Authenticity speaks for itself."
Proverbs 31:30 instructs us about the Proverbs 31 Woman "Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised"
This scripture very clearly tells us that a Proverbs 31 Woman is not known for the grade of clothing she wears, how much makeup she puts on or how well she makes sure the camera finds all her best angles....she is known for her Fear of the Lord. And let us not forget ( or maybe learn for the first time if you are new to the Bible) that this Fear its speaks of is not a trembling, scared of kind of fear but a reverent respect. This woman respects what God instructs her to be; true and authentic.
Many will scream and say "Well God looks on the heart" and yes that is true, but let's really read that sentence and be honest with ourselves when we do.
1 Samuel 16: 7 But the LORD said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The LORD does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.”
This scripture is so overly abused and used out of context.
In this passage Samuel was sent to Jesse, to find a new King. His oldest son was well educated, full of the finest etiquette, stature and no doubt wore very nice clothing since in these times the oldest sons were always prepared to take over their father's house. But God rejected him.....because regardless of how he looked on the outside there was something very ugly God did not like in him on the insides. I am more than convinced that while Jesse was perplexed due to birth order why this son was rejected, that his siblings were not. Let me assure you, what is inside of you will always come out and be presented through your presentation of yourself. Your pride, your ego....they scream loud on social media when every post you make is edited with filters on top of perfectly done makeup and angles. Your followers see it, and regardless of the likes that plump that ego, your God sees it too.
God is not pleased with Pride, just look at what a few chapters back in Proverbs says:
Proverbs 16:5 "Everyone proud in heart is an abomination to the LORD; Though they join forces, none will go unpunished."
Do you understand what abomination means? It means "object of hate". God HATES pride, no doubt it was pride God saw in the heart of Jesse's oldest son. The son God did choose was the youngest, David. David was scrappy youngster who guarded the sheep and from the scriptures what not as well dressed as any of his older brothers.....but God saw what He liked in the heart of David so we can be assured pride was not there.
You can't hide pride, no matter how many scriptures you quote, it will always shine through the mask you are trying to present. So, if you are trying to be a Proverbs 31 Woman, the first thing you need to conquer is your pride, because God hates it. Looking presentable is much different than being so overly adorned that we cannot see who you really are....and truthfully we do all that because we want to look prettier: its vanity, its pride. But, rest assured, the most beautiful women I have ever met in my life did not have perfectly trimmed fake nails and long eyelashes, nor were they hid behind so many social media filters and foundation that you couldn't tell what their skin actually looked liked....they were humble and kind and exhibited true fruits of the spirit. They were authentic and had made peace with not being perfect 24/7.
There is nothing inherently wrong with dressing up, looking nice and accessorizing...nothing at all.....UNTIL all that dressing up and accessorizing becomes who you are. It becomes your replacement identity for who God made you to be.
That is where Pride roots and grows Ladies, in the pedestal we build for how people perceive us.
So, get comfortable with who you are, seek God more than you seek how perfect you appear to others. Filters, looking put together and having a cute wardrobe all have their place, but they should never become your identity. A true Proverbs 31 Woman fears the Lord and finds her identity in Him. It may be scary at first to show the real you, but as you begin to seek God on your journey to becoming a Proverbs 31 Woman you will find that the confidence you gain in your authenticity will shine though with more beauty than any of your masks ever did. A true Proverbs 31 Woman is authentic, not fake.
Don't hide who God made you to be:)